Who is the most unreasonable person in the cutout Danny DeVito debacle?
Who’s the unreasonable: a man in his thirties whose adoration for actor Danny DeVito cost him his job or his six-year-old girlfriend who is considering breaking up with him because of his obsession?
It’s a question that plagued social media this week after a woman went viral on Twitter when she said she wanted to stop with her boyfriend because of her cardboard cutout from DeVito.
On Monday, the 31-year-old explained in a now-deleted Reddit page how the cut enraged her boyfriend’s boss who asked her to remove her from the background at work-at-home meetings. Her 33-year-old boyfriend complied at first, but then refused, going so far as to “buy an oil painting” and “a few other” DeVito cutouts, according to the thread.
After the boss told her that her career was indeed “dead” at the company, her boyfriend opted to quit his 12-year-old job and find a new job – a decision that was made without consulting her and her. ’caused them to question their entire relationship, the woman wrote.
The message was originally written on the “Am I hole A”Subreddit – a forum where users can voice their grievances, and others can comment, engage (or” vote “) and determine whether they are right or wrong – and later shared on the popular Subreddit’s Twitter account .
Many people have debated who among boyfriend, girlfriend and boss is the most unreasonable person in the situation. And while the jury is still out on the matter, ending a six-year relationship because of a DeVito cut indicates that there is a much deeper underlying problem, according to Nate Sawyer, marriage and family therapist. in Durham, North Carolina.
“There could have been a lot of other issues that happened before that, and DeVito maybe just pointed that out,” he told NBC News Thursday. “If they had been together for six years, they must have had some idea of their future together.”
“Looks like she’s having issues with engagement, maybe looking for a way out and trying to get validation for it on the internet,” Sawyer continued. “On the other hand, for him to make such a quick decision and ignore his feelings, I wonder if he ever did and if he ever let her out of the decisions of future planning. “
For the couple, he indicated that “it would be important for them to take a step back to see if they are motivated by their emotions, to unpack what they are feeling and to remember that their decision can affect their partners”.
Many on Twitter and Subreddit have supported the boyfriend – and criticized his girlfriend and his boss.
“Imagine not siding with your life partner against their crappy, unreasonable and humorless boss,” one person tweeted.
Another one Twitter the user wrote: “Her boyfriend is absolutely right to hold on. He works from home and shouldn’t have to redecorate until his background is offensive. And now he is looking for a new job, as it should be.
Some noted, however, that it wasn’t too much to ask to remove something as simple as a cardboard cutout at a meeting.
“Sure, he can decorate his house however he sees fit, but how unreasonable is it to say that there are no cardboard cutouts in the background of your meetings?” ” a Twitter user wrote. “I don’t find that unreasonable at all.”
In her post, the woman admits that the actor’s cardboard cutout from “It’s Always Nice in Philadelphia” never bothered her until her boyfriend was forced to work from home – which, Sawyer noted, has been a recurring problem with his own customers during the pandemic.
“Couples are spending more time together, and the pandemic has strained relationships because there is an unhealthy balance of togetherness and separation,” he said. “It can make people more nervous. “
Sawyer said he wondered if the boyfriend was “trying to change something in his life and do something different – and in this case, he just wanted to put his finger on his boss and stick it to the man. “.
When asked who he thought was at fault, Sawyer said, “It’s not my job to ask for my opinion in these kinds of conversations, but I think most couples like this seek that validation. . “
DeVito, who has previously backed Nabisco workers to protest proposed changes to their working conditions, did not respond to multiple requests for comment.